There are many blogs, FB posts, and Twitter posts that I read and haven't written a comment. I've seen someone at church, work, at the store, etc and didn't make the effort to say something to a person I knew or only was acquainted with.
There isn't always a good reason other than I didn't take/make the time or I was unsure if my comment was good enough.
Recently I judged a writing contest. The contestants were asked to send a word of thanks to the judge when they received their score sheets.
One person wrote a very kind response to me. I recalled her work as one with beginning writing characteristics. Remembering how nice judges were to me when I sat in that position, I chose to comment only on the basics, gave resources, and sprinkled compliments where I could. I did not inflate the grade to make the person feel better, though.
The comment I received warmed my heart. The individual said he was older and had always wanted to write this story. Because of the comments on the score sheet, he said he felt encouraged and wanted to pursue learning more to write the book better.
Only a week later, I observed a critique written from one person I knew to another. The critiquing individual suggested a major shift and gave their reasonings. The shift would drastically change the story and the writer's voice if the author followed through and did as asked. At the time, I felt I shouldn't say anything even though I felt strongly against the suggestion.
The comment circled in my head for days. It seemed God wanted me to write the writer and say my reasons why the major shift should not be done.
It nagged at me. Resurfacing as I did dishes. When I went to bed.
I finally gave in and wrote the writer privately and included a list of reasons why I felt the major shift should not be done.
To my great surprise the writer wrote me back and said she'd spent a great deal of time in prayer the last few days regarding the matter. She became confused, wondering if her style of writing would ever be published. To do the shift would change the work to not be what she felt led to do. The next day, my email arrived to her.
It had become the answer to the writer's prayer and ended up encouraged the writer.
Taking the time to leave comments, or simply give a comment to someone we meet at church, work, at home, anywhere, can often take effort on our part. We may feel unsure about their response or actual need.
BUT, the one thing I learned from the two situations above was:
It's nice to receive comments.
It's nice to give comments.
As long as the comments are:
*for the individual (and not for your benefit-platform)
*complimentary if appropriate
*Paulinian (say what is good before what needs to be improved)
*proof read (typos can change the meaning of the comment to something not intended)
*considering the level/situation the person is experiencing at that very moment
Below, I have a space for you to leave comments. Today, I will give my comment to you first. I really appreciate your visits here at Let's Talk. Your faithful readership up lifts my spirit everyday. I am encouraged to be faithful to you by including you in my prayers and always having the next post up on time, to listen to what interests you and addressing those topics.
A few weeks ago we discussed our one-words for this year. Someone chose the word encourage. Let us go about and encourage others this week by expressing kind comments.
How can you encourage/try to make a comment to someone this week?