Wednesday, May 8, 2013

When We Must Do That Which We Don't Want To Do

"For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do." Romans 7:15 NKJV

My dad and mom, 1978
This verse came to mind today. It is on my heart for a different reason than the Apostle Paul's context intended.

There are time when we must do the things we don't want to do. I'm not talking about eating vegetables, doing chores, or taking medicines. This task is one that tugs at my heart strings.

Today, my sister and I are taking our mom to a nursing home. My mom, a sweet Christian lady, has dementia and it is worsening at a marked rate. Only a week ago, Mom said, "I don't want to go to a nursing home." Yesterday she did not remember I came and spent the whole afternoon with her, taking her out on the patio to listen to the birds and watch the squirrels.

My sister and I have been caring for Mom since last November, increasing the number of visits each day and the amount of time as well. 

But it is now time. She can not be expected to live on her own any more, not safely.

If you would, pray for my mom that she would not feel sad, abandoned, or physically hurt. My sister and I have no intentions to decrease our visits. She deserves it. We want to participate in her care and are thankful there will be professionals to monitor her.

My sister and I are expecting to have a meltdown after we leave. Our only consolation is God's prevision of a bed in the nursing home at the exact time she needed it.

There are many things we must do that we don't want to do. God gives us friends, neighbors, family members, coworkers, church family for the physical hugs. He gives us his beautiful creation for his spiritual hugs. 

So to help me find a comfort, I work best with distraction. How can I pray for your needs?


Beth Steury said...

What a difficult time for you and your sister. Is your mother close to where you are in Michigan? Your sister too? I hope you all adjust well, that she will settle in and enjoy her new surroundings and you and sis feel good about the care she is receiving.

Mary Vee Writer said...

Thank you, Beth. I sure appreciate it.

Anonymous said...

Very nice tribute to Mom, Sis. Each day is getting better and it's only day three. God is Good! Myra

Mary Vee Writer said...

All the time.
All the time, God is good.
Thanks, My, for all you've done.

Anonymous said...

I appreciate both you and Myra, for all you two have done. Most of which mom is not able to remember...we thank you. Just a month ago, Mom and I were scheming different things we might do on my visit this summer for her birthday. This illness has progressed very fast, not giving time for it to fully mature in my thoughts. Mary, thank you for this blog, where we can share imprints of our hearts.
Thank you,

Mary Vee Writer said...

Thanks, sis.
You would have done the same if you lived closer.
Looking forward to you all coming for a visit:)